I am no fan of Andy Roddick. Something about him has always struck me as petulant without punch, brash with only bravado. As a former athlete, I’ve always found those combinations very unsavory.

For me, players like that always seem to talk bigger than they play, ultimately wilting under pressure. (If you’d like an example, sit next to me during a US soccer match when Landon Donovan has faded into the grass.) Time and again, I’d watched young Roddick follow suit, regardless of how much I hoped he’d become the standard bearer of American tennis.

So, as I stretched out on the couch to watch this morning’s Gentlemen’s Singles final, I expected more of the same. When confronted with the greatest of challenges, walking ode to excellence Roger Federer, I reckoned that the match would quickly turn into a coronation for the Swiss star. (Victory today would see him crowned the sport’s winningest player in major tournaments.)

Drifting in and out of sleep, as the casual fan often does, I repeatedly heard the following phrase regarding the American: “Roddick has completely remade his body and his game.” In so doing, he had also elevated his level of play. No longer prone to prolonged instances of whining or shaky mental toughness, I actually found myself impressed with him.

Though he eventually succumbed to Federer, it was evident he had become something new and better than before. It is as if his brain befits his immense talent, allowing him to play matches he would have long been out of (like today’s epic five-setter).

Thus, Roddick serves as a metaphor for this sermon. By taking the time and making the tremendous effort to change, he became better than he’d ever been and set himself up to fulfill more of his considerable potential.

Each of us can do the same in our lives. We can ask ourselves difficult questions and, with focused effort over time, produce the answers we want.

In Roddick’s case, it unfortunately did not produce a championship today. However, I am certain he is much closer now than he ever could have been before.

I was walking out of a late lunch with my family this afternoon and said “It’s pretty nice today.”

“Probably because it’s only 90 instead of 100,” my mom said.

“I guess. Just a matter of perspective,” I answered.

As I’ve pondered throughout the afternoon and evening the need for a topic today, this came to mind. I recently read The Noticer by Andy Andrews, in which the title character takes it upon himself to provide struggling individuals with a new way of looking at things.  Though my final review of the book would be fairly neutral, there is an importance to understanding the power of perspective.

The glory and burden of being human is the ability to attach meaning to life’s events. So much of how we experience things is determined by our outlook, for as Shakespeare wrote in Hamlet, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

What are you thinking? When you see something happen, do you ask how it can get worse or look for a solution? Do you think of every reason something can’t be done instead of contemplating a way it can?

My belief is that life is about making decisions. Choices determine actions, which lead to outcomes. Your response to events has a ripple effect on your future, shaping the next set of events.

Next time something comes along, take an extra moment to breathe and understand your perspective. Ask yourself why your first thought was whatever it ends up being. That is the first step in changing your life.

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I have a question: What is freedom?

This has been a splinter in my brain for a while, something I’m pondering quite a bit as I flesh out the ideas for my “author” projects. You may not like the answer I keep coming back to.

Ready for it?

Responsibility.

Wait! Don’t go! I bet some of you are thinking “I have so many responsibilities, I have no freedom.” That may or may not be true. Perhaps you only think you have some of the obligations you actually do.

I find it interesting to see the synonyms on my favorite online (or on iPhone, in this case) thesaurus. Albatross. Constraint. Liability. Instead of giving the word that kind of weight, take a look at it from another perspective…

Responsibility allows you to know what is and is not your job, what you can and cannot control. It is what I’ve heard called–and often repeat as gospel–your sphere of influence. In the scope of things, your actions have a finite range. Though the effect will be infinite in its ripples, directly you are only able to affect what is nearby…your thoughts and beliefs, then finally the actions arising from them.

To be free is to know that range, to understand the boundaries (which I will contend are likely further than you’ve gone) and run right out to the edge, fulfilling all your potential in that space.

Being all you can is simply a matter of knowing what you have to do. As a parent, you must raise a child that can contribute to society. As a leader, you are charged with helping others perform to their capability for a common goal.

There is power and liberation in knowing your responsibilities. How great is it to say “THIS is what I do, this is what you do?”

What do you think?

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I’ve been a bit lazy today, the result of an unfocused mind. In truth, I’ve been struggling to come up with something brilliant to say to honor my father.

He has always asked us to be our best, to give the maximum effort and let that guide our satisfaction with the results. It is a valuable lesson, because understanding the importance of the energy put into the task and the capabilities of the individual doing so frames relationships all throughout life.

I think I’ve always mirrored my dad, as most boys do. I picked up his mannerisms and some personality traits, though I strive to be better in certain areas. My hope is to be a further evolution, an advancement of some sort, just as he was a step above his father. I will pray the same happens with my son (and daughter, whenever they finally arrive).

The truth is, I could certainly find worse examples to follow. He is a caring, kind and respectful man. He’s smarter than he thinks, more articulate than he believes and an extremely capable leader. He is a raving fan, trusted adviser and faithful friend.

He’s a tough act to follow. I like it that way.

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Quick! Whats this guy thinking?

Quick! What's this guy thinking?

Researchers in Europe presented an enlightening study yesterday that shows your ability to decipher another person’s emotions depends on whether you’re in your right mind.

OK, that isn’t exactly what they said. To be totally correct, it was shown that the right side of the brain is more efficient than the left at connecting someone’s facial expressions to their emotions. Further, positive images were determined quicker and clearer than negative ones, which goes against a previous study performed in the US.

When you see a face, you have an impression of what’s going on with that individual in roughly 100 milliseconds (that’s 0.1 seconds, for you non-metric types). Another study I read recently theorized that this is a survival mechanism, allowing you to quickly figure out how much of a threat there is in the environment.

An interesting thought occured to me: Why is it that the positive (“approach”) expressions are handled faster than negative (‘withdrawal”)?

Wouldn’t it make sense to have more sensitivity to the bad than the good? I mean, you need more reaction time to avoid a life-threatening situation, right? (Ignoring, of course, the fact that we’re talking about fractions of a second.) Maybe it’s due to an inborn desire to be able to discern if we can relax first instead of having to mobilize all our resources, which takes a lot more energy.

I think it’s pretty amazing that, even before you blink, you’ve got an idea of what your friend is thinking.

Makes you wonder what else you’re doing before you know it, huh?

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I’ve told you before how important sleep is and I hope you listened.  In case you have persisted with a pattern of insomnia, I’m going to point your attention toward some interesting findings from last week’s meeting of the Associated Professional Sleep Societies, which had to be a total snoozer. (Get it?)

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It seems that an adequate amount of REM sleep affects our ability to process other people’s emotions.  Using photographs, researcheers found that people managing to get some REM sleep–where dreams occur–during a nap identified happiness in photographs more than other participants. What’s more, those who had lower-level sleep or none at all were more tuned to negative expressions. Could such a “bad” focus when tired perpetuate more anxiety and less sleep?

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REM sleep helps to create associations between unrelated ideas, meaning that seemingly disparate terms (such as cookie, heart and sixteen) can be joined together by another (in this case from the study, “sweet”). Participants were shown several three-word groups similar to the example, then asked to find a fourth “linking” word during a morning test and another in the afternoon. Those achieving REM sleep improved 40% between the two, while the other groups (non-REM sleep, quiet rest) showed no change.

What does this mean? Well, aside from the fact that sleep enhances memory formation (it’s not the only time you do it) and allows tissues to repair, clearly your brain is at work to make sense of your daily experiences (maybe even comparing them to the past) and possibly even plot a course to your next destination. Maybe you would be more likely to find a new job or better in tune to those you work for or with.

Thomas Edison was known to take catnaps to increase productivity and Dr. John Medina points out in Brain Rules that people squeezing some shut-eye into their day are more effective for the rest of the afternoon.

What difference could a few extra (better) Zs make in your life?

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“Telling someone they have a fat head is a compliment.”

I have been unintentionally away from the blog the last couple of weeks. I’m in the midst of trying to organize several projects and unfortunately my little piece of the internet has suffered some. However, I promise to return in a more consistent fashion beginning this week.

Today, I want to tell a brief story from the past week. I was talking with a woman about a major event coming up in her life and sharing my excitement for her reaching this milestone. She discussed some of the challenges she’s overcome and ended by saying “Sometimes I feel like I’m unworthy.”

I took the opportunity to share with her what I’m about to share with you. Though I grew up in the Christian faith, I still search through other traditions for pearls of wisdom and I felt it necessary to pass along this from the Koran: “God does not waste the hire of those who do well.”

Obviously, I am no preacher. However, I believe this is something important to remember when we feel overwhelmed with a new task in life. We are given no more than we are capable of. The more we prove we can handle, the more we are asked to do…and we must joyfully take up the job because it means we’re fulfilling some of that vast potential we are born with.

The Bible tells us “For unto whomsoever much is given, of him much shall be required.” (Luke 12:48, KJV) Though it may seem like too much, I can assure you it’s “just right.” Take a breath and remember what you were hired to do.

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Be All You Can Be

I have a tendency to smile while I work out. It’s something I’ve only recently begun doing and it may look strange to fellow gymgoers, particularly as I am often struggling to breathe while forcing the corners of my mouth back and up.

Why, you ask? I’m pushing my limits and that is how growth occurs. In a workout like the one I modified for today (Hansen), there are times when I literally am on my knees gasping for air…wondering if 1) I should just quit or 2) if I’m going to die trying to finish. The answer to 1) is always “Don’t you dare!” and to 2) is “Just get through it. Do whatever it takes.”

Realize that there are moments in life where you’ll be growing, pushing the boundaries of what you’ve known before and you’ll be tempted in the same manner. You can shrink and return to what has been true for you all along or expend the energy necessary to see what’s over the ridge.

Challenges are a part of achieving anything. You must be emotionally and physically willing to blow through the barriers you have believed in before, understanding that on the other side is a better you that’s closer to the BEST you.

Each of us will pass away, the only question is how we will have lived and whether we will have spent our time becoming all that we can. Isn’t that worth dying for?

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I’ve been meaning to talk about finding inspiration to continue on when the going gets rough. Instead of opining for a few minutes–which I’ll probably do some other time anyway–I’m going to share the stage with someone else. This is Nick Vujicic and his story is pretty self-explanatory…

Eliminating cancer, one bicep at a time.

Drop what you’re doing and go lift weights! Build muscles like Hans and Franz, it will save your life!

That may be a bit of an overstatement, but just a few days ago word got out that guys who are stronger are less likely to die from cancer than “girly men” (t0 borrow from our Austrian friends at left).

The study followed more than 8,600 men of all ages for over twenty years with annual medical check-ups and strength tests. At the end, researchers counted up who developed cancer and eventually passed way.

Men who lifted weights in addition to cardiovascular training were found to have 30-40% less chance to succumb to a deadly tumor. Further, even those stronger individuals with excess belly fat or a high body mass index showed a protective effect.

You can begin building strength simply by doing some pushups, pullups and squats. These basic exercises rely only on body weight and work many muscles in combination. A balanced strength and conditioning routine will produce optimum results.

I am, obviously, a big fan of exercise. Knowing all that it does for the health of your body and mind, I am more and more convinced of its central role in life every day. Get moving and lifting! Take your time, though. Nobody expects you to look like the guys in 300 tomorrow.

If you can, however, more power (and less cancer) to you!

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